Anger or appreciation…it’s your choice

How can you have an extraordinary life if you’re holding onto stress, frustration, anger, disappointment?

Research has shown that your earliest experiences within your family are the most influential factor when it comes to how you communicate and relate to others.

Patterns of anger, frustration and stress in relationships are taken from your past experiences and can be passed down to further generations and even outside of the family unit.

Holding onto these feelings is toxic!

Your body and mind are suffering as a result….and it permeates through all areas of your life.

Scary fact…

The Centre for disease control (CDC) found that 85% of all diseases have a strong link to your emotional state.

Here are some facts about the impact of chronic anger, frustration and stress:

On your health:

·      Weakens your immune system

·      Increases the release of stress hormones (adrenaline and noradrenaline)

·      High blood pressure which increases your risk of stroke

·      Increased risk of heart disease (A study by Washington State University found that people with explosive tempers were more likely to have calcium deposits in their arteries, which is a primary indicator of heart disease)

·      Headaches

·      Insomnia

·      Digestion problems

·      Depression/anxiety/stress

On your relationships:

·      Starts arguments and fights

·      Causes conflict and tension in relationships

·      Can result in those you love feeling upset or afraid

·      Run the risk of pushing others away

It’s your choice…anger or appreciation?

It’s not possible to do both at the same time.

Try these self-reflection questions –

·      Does feeling angry feel good?

·      Does anger feel bright and lightweight?

·      Or does it feel dark and heavy?

·      What sets me off?

·      Is there a pattern?

·      Am I holding onto anger from past events?

So, how do you deal with anger, frustration?

Here are 4 tips –

1.     Release any anger you’re holding onto from your past

2.     Become aware of the pattern that leads to you being angry

3.     Find ways to break your patterns and as a result feel more joy and happiness

4.     Seek professional help if you’re really struggling

“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die” – Buddha